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Please pray with me….

Please pray for a very special friend IRL, Jennifer who just had a miscarriage. In my eyes she is a wonderful wife and mother of 6 and does an outstanding job giving herself to everyone who needs her. She needs our prayers, please take a moment and say a prayer for her! 

I came across this prayer on EWTN’s site. It helped me during my time of grief and wanted to share it with you all. While checking in on Ruth’s blog, I saw she had posted this prayer as well. Great minds think alike!! It really helps me see why the miscarriages I had was such a loss for me and a blessing for the child, and that helps with the pain, because every mother only wants what is best for our children. And of coarse our Father knows what is best for us all, doesn’t he.

Here is the prayer-

My Lord, the baby is dead!

 Why, my Lord—dare I ask why? It will not hear the whisper of the wind or see the beauty of its parents’ face—it will not see the beauty of Your creation or the flame of a sunrise. Why, my Lord?

 “Why, My child—do you ask ‘why’? Well, I will tell you why.

 You see, the child lives. Instead of the wind he hears the sound of angels singing before My throne. Instead of the beauty that passes he sees everlasting Beauty—he sees My face. He was created and lived a short time so the image of his parents imprinted on his face may stand before Me as their personal intercessor. He knows secrets of heaven unknown to men on earth. He laughs with a special joy that only the innocent possess. My ways are not the ways of man. I create for My Kingdom and each creature fills a place in that Kingdom that could not be filled by another. He was created for My joy and his parents’ merits. He has never seen pain or sin. He has never felt hunger or pain. I breathed a soul into a seed, made it grow and called it forth.”

 I am humbled before you, my Lord, for questioning Your wisdom, goodness, and love. I speak as a fool—forgive me. I acknowledge Your sovereign rights over life and death. I thank You for the life that began for so short a time to enjoy so long an Eternity.                                                                                              —  Mother M. Angelica


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Odd Girl Out…

 When I was young, I went to many schools growing up. I was always popular when I first started a new school.  A group always seemed to come to me and seem to accept me. As a young girl, I was happy for a few months and enjoyed knowing people enjoy me too. But, after a few months…it would drastically change. I would become ousted once the girls in the group noticed I didn’t gossip, or would stand up for someone they were mean too. Other reasons too, my family never had newer, nice cars….we lived in less then middle class housing, didn’t always have the popular outfits, and so on. (which I see as a gift now)  Almost every year with in a few months, one day the girls in the group would just ignore me. I would go and sit at our usual spot and they would move. I would call and they wouldn’t take my calls. They would pass me in the hall and I would say hi and nothing….. all of the sudden and all at once, they would all snub me.  Then I would begin too sit alone and read my books and settle into being a fly on the wall, observing and thinking to myself.  This was really hurtful, but I was able to grow thick skin and condition myself to move on and get over it.  There was always one girl in the group that would later tell me “_____ told us that you weren’t cool and to all ignore you.”  Though I juggled living in different households (Mom and Dad divorced and Dad traveled some) sometimes dad, sometimes mom, other times my nanny and grandad and once with an Aunt…I still had a strong family unit, so I just grew thick skin.  My dad was a good at giving pep talks, and told me I don’t want those kind of friends and why do I care what they say or think about me.

Sometimes,  I knew the exact moment it was going to happen.  Example:  It was picture day in the 7th grade.  I spent forever on my hair! lol  Now, our only vehicle for a while was my dad’s motorcycle. (our car needed work)  I begged him to borrow a car from grandma, sometimes he could…but not this day.  I was upset, so my dad…with his bright ideas, said well I will try to take some back roads on the motorcycle and we will put a brown bag over your head to keep the wind off!  LMAO  I was desperate and it sounded practical. I wasn’t thinking that my “popular friends” would think I was weird. I was young and my dad was never one to care what people thought, so with a pep talk…I hopped on…lol with a bag on my head!!  Needless to say I was snubbed for the rest of the year.  We moved shortly after, so I was off to make a fresh start somewhere new. It wasn’t just as a kid, there were other reasons as an adult, you know how some women can be. Just seemed like there was always one girl that just didn’t like me and would try to get others to not like me. I see now how this would grow to later be a gift for me.  Our Lord wont let something bad happen, unless a greater good can come of it. 

My point here is- that girls…women can be catty, mean and down-rite nasty!  Men will just usually fight it out, but women go for the heart. I still don’t have many friends because of this. You just don’t fit in to main stream society when you don’t act and behave like them.  I think for everyday life, this is what Christ meant when he said in many scriptures that if you love him, the world will reject you.  I know now that I was usually rejected because of my values, social class, or that I would stand up for what was right and not conform to being shallow.  This still happens as an adult in some social gatherings, some women can just be that way. I can say that in 10 years I have had one friend that I have had off and on in my life, whenever we needed each other. I have also had few really nice ladies I talk to every once in awhile from the catholic school my son went to from k-2nd. Also, one friend who lives out of state that I miss dearly.

But, this year…I started homeschooling.  I prayed for real, God loving, down to earth women to be put in my path.  And, here alas I have started to make friends.  The women I have met in the homeschool groups are wonderful! I made some friends and can see just how neat it is to finally share the same values as the other women.  God really placed me where I am right now. Long story…but believe me, we are meant to be where we are. I also met some great women at a retreat I attended in February.  I can’t begin to tell you how wonderful they all were to be placed with me there.

This leads me to the reason for this post. My blog friends.  I have never meet women like this before! Totally filled with warmth, love, genuinely caring and nurturing souls! Thank you to all the ladies out there for their blogs and for reading my blog. For once in my life I feel like I have good women as friends!

I received  these flowers from Jessica and was so surprised!  It is so nice to know someone thinks of doin something nice for you, all on their own…no other motives than to just be a friend 🙂  Thanks Jessica!!!


I am going to give this to some of my new blog friends.  I can’t tell you how much I needed to read about some of your lives, your struggles, your inspirations and motivations.  All of you inspire me!  (and even many more than what I am able to list here too)

Jennifer– My new friend in real life. She always makes me feel welcomed at gatherings.

Michelle– sooo honest and down to earth. Did I mention funny?!

Nori– I love how we both like to blog about being frugal.

Cheryl- always honest in her thoughts and gets me to de-clutter! (I know you got some from Jessica, but you can never have too many flowers!)

Bridget– who seems to know so much 😉

and last but soo not least,back to Jessica who I think has all of these qualities, and just emits the Holy Spirit from her blog, truly.

Thanks be to God for answering my prayers! You really know what was good for me. Thank you to Mother Mary whom I asked to pray for me and guide me.

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